I am hardly ever speechless

but this gentlemen accomplished to cause the following short online conversation.

23 Apr 2009, 18:15, he says,

"hey man, you are hot, i am a hairy daddy type, i'd love to work up a sweat with you, i am not into cologne or deodorant, i'd love to sniff and lick your hairy pits and balls while making love with you"

23 Apr 2009, 18:19, I managed to reply,

"sorry but i don't even know how to respond to that."

Addendum: he actually sent an answer at 18:30:

"that's cool, your pics are very hot!"

I think I'll close the dialog box now.

New This Week, Part 15

Although I had a marvelous week here, it only yielded one little piece two little pieces of news:

1. Software: Digsby
Picture taken from the Digsby website

Pidgin sucks monkey butt as it doesn't work well with Skype, in spite of the Skype plugin. I guess the programmer of said plugin is to blame but regardless of that, I decided to get rid of Pidgin and switch to Digsby even though it doesn't handle Skype at all. Not a problem since Skype had to run in the background anyway.

What I like about Digsby is the way you can easily (more so than in Pidgin) combine people who use several instant messengers into one contact, and that Digsby also handles e-mail accounts and Twitter fast and conveniently. Plus, I'm intrigued by its Web 2.0 looks. Cute, colorful, easy to use, taken! :)

2. Beer: Delirium tremens
Last weekend, Santa offered me a bottle of this outstanding Belgian beer. No, not the Santa you think, the Demoscener Santa.
The beer has 8.5% alcohol so basically, this bottle gives you the spin of two bottles. Way to go! It's funky-tasting, too! I like it!









A Few Words on Breakpoint

Although the festival I attended over the Easter weekend -- "Breakpoint" -- is neither new nor has it really brought anything absolutely new, I need to mention it here because of the outstandingly great time I had there. For years I felt a tiredness about the Demoscene, complaining that nothing was changing, you always saw the same faces, that I felt like I had moved on, and all sorts of things like that.

This year, I didn't only have an incredible time meeting old and new friends and laughing so often and hard that I'd sometimes have a hard time believing I was awake. I have also felt the fire again that used to drive me years ago. The urge to make music, to be part of the creativity and energy that's omnipresent there, and to be one of the countless energy currents you can't but run into.

With every word you hear or say there, with every second you spend with one of the innumerable creative minds, with every sunbeam you feel on your skin sitting outside chatting away, I felt and knew that I was part of something very powerful.

And I want to contribute again, to give back to this community that has given me support and affirmation for years. Never in my life have I experienced a community in which you encounter so little ego, so little hostility, and at the same time massive potential, hospitality and warm-heartedness.

As much as I know how weird we are in the Demoscene, as much I openly admit that I love you guys for the wonderful family that you are. And being at thanking you, thank you very much for giving my ladyfriend such a warm welcome. I could tell in her eyes that she was having a wonderful time.

Thank you.

New This Week, Part 14

1. Gym: New Class: Hot Iron I
Photo courtesy of d_vdm
I had wanted to attend this class for a while, especially since one of the instructors recently told me that my muscles "were bored" from the beginner's classes I was attending. I should do Hot Iron I for starters, then after a few weeks move on to II and finally to Hot Iron Cross, the last of which allegedly was the shit.

Well, I attended Hot Iron I on Tuesday, and frankly, it wasn't all that cool. What you do there is basically lifting barbells. Music was okay, workout was okay, instructor was okay, but it was far from exciting.

Also new but not quite worth an extra point is that I attended a new yoga class that day, given by a guy called Julio who was fun and good at what he was doing, who, however, didn't quite teach the kind of yoga that I like, which is more the Ashtanga style with a lot of dynamics and sweat. I'm just not the type to be sitting there and "contemplating my energy flows".

2. Restaurant: Casa Gustosa
Photo courtesy of ukcider
Another new restaurant that I have tried now. It was a friend's idea to go to a Moroccon (or Tunesian?) place on Nordstraße, called Casa Gustosa, where allegedly the Couscous Royale was great. So went there, five of us, and all had exactly that. And it was great food; I would've just loved a little more sauce. Couscous tends to suck up all the moisture so you might end up gagging choking on something very delicious. :)

Of course nothing I didn't already know

Photo courtesy of HAMED MASOUMI

Doesn't it make you feel great when you can help people out? That is the case for me at least. In fact, when I see that I have cast a warm feeling in somebody, or sometimes even just a faint smile, my world is filled with a golden gloom I wouldn't dare even begin talking about. All y'all would think I'm gay, and I hate that.

Following up is a short conversation that happened on one of my chat/cruising platforms yesterday the last two days. I would like you to participate in the thankfulness I sometimes receive. Names replaced, orthography slightly corrected for your reading convenience. I put his parts that I especially loved in italics.

SouthernGuyIntoYoungerGuys writes on 03/31 at 01:43 pm,

Your profile is very interesting. As I am growing into a "Daddy" by age, and was never into daddies, could you please explain to me what a 'daddy type' is? I always liked younger guys so could never see why anybody would like older guys.

Than you for some insight.

Chris

My reply, 03/31 10:08 pm,

Hi Chris,

It's hard to tell, really, but the fascination for older men has to do with the maturity, at least for me. I like men who have seen parts of the world that I haven't, who are relaxed about things that bother younger guys, men whose bodies are also physically older.

If you don't share a fascination it is always hard to tell. but be assured that there are people out there you actually do like older men, just like that. My partners have been always at least 15 years older.

I hope this helps.
/pöt

The next day, I get his response to that, 04/01 10:36 am

I appreciate you taking time to give me some insight. I need some more and you may know something I don't since you are European. There is this young guy on here '[nickname]', lives in India and really wants me to travel to India and he will then show me all around. I am an adventurer and a risk taker so I'm up the experience. I'm also cautious because having lived in NYC and being older I know things aren't always what they seem. There is a lot of evil and danger out there.

Could you give me your read on this?

"I need some more", great, but it fits perfectly because my sole purpose in life is to fulfill the needs of people whom I don't know the least bit. And the "There is a lot of evil and danger out there" part is totally up my alley, too. I just love this image of the world, dominated by evil and danger. Hitler and Hussein rule!

Anyway, my answer, 04/01 12:47 pm,

I of course know next to nothing about this [nickname] guy, other than what his profile says. However, this is what I'm reading.

You are cautious, otherwise you wouldn't have written to me, I guess. So you seem to feel that something is wrong. Usually our intuition tells us right, even if we don't listen or interpret its messages wrongly. It's basically up to you to decide whether your feeling that something isn't right is coming from him or inside of you. This young guy might be perfectly fine, and yet you could be suspicious.

Try listening to what your heart tells you.

What I read out of his profile is this:
He doesn't write a lot but he doesn't sound very focused or realistic. All he wants is an older man, for an LTR if I read this correctly.
If he wants you to travel all the way to India, he is looking for something.

Sometimes what people look for is just affirmation: "Am I worth enough for somebody to travel across the globe to meet me?"

Remember, the less somebody knows about you, the less he has experienced of you, the more he's actually dealing with his ideas of you. Often when it comes to a meeting in reality, these ideas don't match the person, which again causes difficulties.

I'd say you should try webcamming with him first and see how you get along. If -- via webcam or any other way -- you receive a genuine and caring feeling that has to do with you and not just his idea of you, you're good to go, I think.

And let's face it. If you have the money to fly to India for something like this, you should be fine to get along alone in India as well. It's not that expensive, and if push comes to shove, you can always just fly back prematurely.

If you want to hear my experiences:
I flew to San Diego, California last summer after weeks of webcam chatting with a guy there. It turned out...let's say...a very valuable lesson for me. I mean it, the first 1.5 weeks were not very pleasant because he turned out all different than I thought. The second half was great. All in all it was one of the most valuable lessons in my life.

Then again, I met a man from LA in Florida this February, for roughly ten days. We had webcam chatted for almost 85 hours prior to our meeting (I summed the times up later, that's why I know), and we had a marvelous time together, not exactly sexually, but I found a great friend there.

So either way, it'll be an experience that will probably change your life.

Ultimately,
1. listen to your heart, and
2. don't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone.

Iif you do these two things, you're going to be more than fine. You'll be great.

I hope this helps.

All the best!
/pöt

And now his final response, 04/01 01:10 pm,

Great advise and of course nothing I didn't already know. Especially how we make things up in our heads and then the MEETING of expectations. lol It does sound like an adventure!

You've been great.

Chris

With all willingness to be the change that I want to see in the world, there is just one more thing that I wholeheartedly like to add.

Photo courtesy of Gigi Elmes

Fuck you.